Becoming Limitless
When coaches begin with new clients, they often get Becoming Limitless Review a fairly lengthy questionnaire to fill out, one that's full of nothing but open-ended questions designed to dig into their lives and beings and stir their pots 'til they're frothy. And often, one of those questions will ask something like, What's your life purpose. What are you here to give to the world that won't exist if you don't. I even reference the movie, parenthetically encouraging my new clients to, Think 'It's a Wonderful Life.' And much of the time. That particular question is either left blank or completed with a lightly and hurriedly scrawled, I don't know. It freaks lots of people out. Not knowing, by the way, is perfectly okay for the moment. But it's a curious thing as to why so many of us don't know, and why that question is so scary to be with.
The question of purpose is BIG, perhaps one of the hugest we'll each ever grapple with in our lives. And yet we haven't been taught to be with it, to feel into it, to trust our inklings. When we were young, very few of us heard the message, You've got deep, wide, hugely impactful things to do and be here, kid, and you know what. You were made perfectly for'em. You're wildly capable, so don't forget that. Nope. We heard lots of other things, many of them helpful to be sure, but no one taught most of us to know that we can not only know but live into our individual purposes, and that actually, we must if we are to ever fully be ourselves.
And isn't that what we all ache for, truly. Just the permission and peace of truly being ourselves without fear, apology, the need to hide or put up walls. So what stops us. I often hear and have personally experienced two primary fears around purpose. One is a fear around destruction of life as we know it. It fosters this kind of thinking: If I finally understand my purpose, then I'll have to live up to it, live into it. And what if living into it shakes life as I know it apart. What if everything has to change for me to live into my purpose. So there's a fear of letting go, of releasing, and of trusting that living into purpose will ultimately be the best thing for us.
Before I finally leaned into slowly but surely building a life around my purpose, I was holding so tightly to work, a relationship, a living situation and a social group that plain and simple did not reflect on the outside who I was growing more and more to be on the inside. But they were what I knew, and they represented security. So I held on and held on until the pain of that mis-alignment got too great, and then I slowly started letting go, piece by piece, of all those things that didn't fit, hoping and trusting that what was waiting on the other side had to be good, had to be better, because it would mean I was being more and more of ME.
