Individualogist Review
If you are irritated or having a Individualogist Review problem with someone or even when you have something positive to express, the practice is to speak directly with the person involved, not to someone else. You might ask, What for. or What might there be left to talk about. When my husband hears people mostly me gossiping, he has been known to recite an Eleanor Roosevelt quote, Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. That is certainly one way of nipping it in the bud.
I am blessed to be a part of an extraordinary community of people who have committed their lives to working on behalf of healing - both individually and as a planet. This includes all of the beings. Through Council, and other indigenous ways, these gatherings invite and welcome all the members of the community - including the ancestors and the Spirit world, the trees and animals, the stones and elementals. We come together with the soul purpose of healing. Right Speech is at the heart of this sacred family.
In the center of this community is Deena Metzger, a wise elder, and teacher to many. She once said to me when I was leaving our first meeting, Good, today I have done no harm. I fell head over heels in love with her right there on the spot. I began to look at every encounter - whether it be sitting with a client, being with a family member, friend, or someone I've just met, with that same question.
Have I participated in this exchange without doing harm. Recently during Council she mentioned it is not enough to live by the code of doing no harm. That we must live according to what she calls, The code of Benefits. With regards to right action, she says, the way to measure whether it is beneficial. if no clear benefit is visible, don't do it. Right Speech is paramount to this practice. I do aspire to live by the code of Benefits.
